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From the Heart of Grace Waters…


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Lifestyles of the “Not So Famous”

I have been writing for years….I mean, like years and years…since I was a little girl. I started writing professionally when I was in high school, and the rest, as “they” say, is history. I write because I love to encourage. I write because it gives me an outlet. I write because it makes me feel alive, and I am passionate about reaching the world beginning with the tip of my pen or the tap of the keys. I am undeniably a writer, and most definitely a motivator. Those facts are intrinsic; however, sometimes I get weary. Sometimes it takes everything to muster up a few words of encouragement. At times, I get serious writer’s block, to the point where I don’t write for weeks.  Then, maybe life happens, and I get distracted; Out of all of that though, one thing never changes, and that is that I am a writer.

Recently, I have been getting a lot of random encouragement to keep writing from some really unexpected places. My grandfather, who admittedly does not like to read books, just told me that he is blown away by my writing and my book makes him want to read. My friend sent me a message telling me that my words have power and are necessary…and more from others. Their words have lifted me up, and pushed me to be and do even more. Sometimes, in the midst of feeling like you are being overlooked, what you do may be even more far-reaching than you realize.

So, don’t stop being who you are because you feel unappreciated or not taken seriously. What is in you will not change just because you don’t feel like “being” it. It is still there. It is still waiting on you to walk into your full potential. Maybe you are not “famous”, and you do not have worldwide acclaim, but to who it matters, you are a “star”…and just maybe you are right where you are supposed to be, processing through the lifestyle of the “not so famous” to come to a place of wholeness and potency to where the very essence of your life’s purpose oozes from your pores even without you having to say a word. So, write…dance…speak…create…be…someone is still watching you…


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Stuck In My Head

It is funny to me that most of our actions actually begin as figments in our mind. We think about the food we would like to eat, and the next thing we know, we are in the drive-thru line appeasing our appetites. Even on a relationship level, we imagine the perfect mate, and we begin to either turn away those who do not fit that description, or we try to make every person we meet fit those characteristics. Either way, many times, what we end up acting out has already been formulated and played out in our mind. We do this in our daily lives when we  begin to think negative things about ourselves. In our minds we tell ourselves that no one likes us, or that everyone is against us. Because of this we seclude ourselves, and we take even the most innocent looks as something meaningful. We begin to lash out at people before they can “decide” to not like us so that we do not have to worry. We even think to ourselves that it is not possible for anyone to love us, so sometimes unintentionally, we make it hard for people to love us. Instead of allowing people to care, we give them a reason to not care. Sometimes we get so stuck in our heads that we create an entire world separate from what is really going on around us. This causes us to lose out on moments, and we are denying ourselves things that we should rightfully have. We create turmoil for ourselves, and make our lives much more difficult than they should be. I know that I am one who used to, quite often, have these mind battles. I thought that everyone was against me. I just knew that when someone looked at me they were thinking bad things, or whispering about me. In reality, even if someone was speaking ill of me, it was nothing even close to what I made up in my head. Instead of filling ourselves with negativity, we should think in a more positive light. No matter what anyone says, thinks, or does, we should remind ourselves that we are strong, lovable, and more than the negative thoughts we could convince ourselves to believe. Don’t be stuck in your head. Free yourself.


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Admitting the Obvious

When I look back over my life I see that there have been times when I denied something so much that what I was denying eventually had a hold on me-and I had a difficult time letting go. We know how it is…we feel something but in our desire to forget that we ever thought that way we deny it. As a result of coming to this recent realization I made the decision to admit my thoughts and feelings, deal with them, and then move forward.  I understand that the longer I avoid admitting the obvious, the stronger the hold is, and the more harm I cause to myself. Those thoughts and feelings that I had to admit to were not really bad thoughts and feelings to have, but they were ones that I needed to release. As I focused and tried to tell myself that there was nothing to how I felt, my mind seemed to harp on those very things. When I began to acknowledge how I felt, that is when the feelings began to recede. I released myself by accepting that “it is what it is” and I can do nothing but acknowledge so that I can keep moving forward. We allow things to keep us bound because we like to pretend that some feelings and thoughts do not exist. Now to balance it out, I am not saying that we need to abandon all else to give in to our feelings or thoughts, but I am saying that in order for us to be able to focus on what is important in life we have to admit some things to ourselves. If we never tell another human being how we feel, that is alright. All that matters is that we have remained truthful to ourselves. Admit the obvious. In fact, I found that as I continued to deny, what I was feeling began to manifest itself in my actions–which was making it obvious to others. There are some things that no one else needs to know, but because we seek to conceal those things even from ourselves, they become apparent to others. It is past time that we take control of our thoughts, actions, and our feelings so that we can live the fulfilling life that we so desire. Admitting the obvious gives us freedom to be who we are without chains securing us to our past–admitting allows us to hope in our future.